Rest: Is there room in your schedule?

Almost a fortnight ago, whilst enjoying a week’s break from work, I posted about the importance of rest. The half term break, as most of my work is school related seemed like a good week to take a holiday and also a good time to focus on rest. It was a useful topic to reflect on as I know that rest is something that has helped me to be resilient but also something I have neglected on occasion, to the detriment of my health and work.

Rest is a key factor in developing and maintaining resilience and so an awareness of the seven types of rest advocated by Dr Saundra Dalton Smith is so important.

I enjoy my work, especially since I have started working flexibly, doing a mixture of coaching and supporting teachers and leaders. Even so, after week of “back to business”, I was feeling decidedly unrested. A focus on rest, looking at the types I need the most and ensuring they are a part of my week’s holiday had been useful but I can see now that rest is even more important during a working week.

I realised that in a busy week full of work, family and volunteer governor commitments that I hadn’t prioritised rest highly enough. Reflecting, I also noted a pattern. Looking further back, as far as my student days and then as a teacher, and more recently as a headteacher, I realised that where things had been going well and I felt confident, receiving good feedback and achieving well, I have “allowed” myself the reward of rest. Of course, now knowing the importance of rest, I can see why this helped with a positive spiral. More rest leads to a better performance, feeling better, allowing more rest and so on.

Conversely, I also know that there have been times when things haven’t been going well, where I was unhappy about feedback I’d received, or when I felt I wasn’t achieving enough or that my performance was poor (aware that some of this criticism is applied myself), I haven’t rested enough. Of course, I have still slept, or tried to, but have certainly not taken the breaks, mental rest and relaxation needed. As a result, this has then led into patterns of poor performance leading to even less willingness to rest creating a negative spiral. On one occasion, a wake up call came in the shape of burnout, a turning point and one I hope never to return to.

Rest isn’t a luxury – it is an essential

The key lesson – rest is something we all need and deserve. However we may judge our performance, whilst we may use some rest type activities as motivation or reward, good, varied and appropriate rest is vital to our ability to function, perform, live and support others.

Rest During the Work Day

This led me to focus back on the seven types of rest that Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith writes about, only this time to look at them in the context of a work day or working week. A time where there are many conflicting demands. I hear many of you say that this is also the case during holiday times, with families to juggle, but with work added, this must create even more pressure and risk the all important rest being squeezed out. So, how can we make sure there is time and that we allow ourselves rest?

Permission to Rest

First, we need to star with permission. You need rest. Rest will make you more capable and happier, you owe it to yourself. It isn’t a luxury, even if some rest activities may fall into the “luxury” category, rest is something we need to function and flourish as human beings.

With all of the thoughts here about rest, practicing in a non stressful situation will make accessing rest in more challenging times more possible and effective.

Physical rest

One suggestion is to practice “body fludiity”. At your desk or elsewhere at work, roll your head around in circles, curl your toes, squeeze and open your hands. These little actions of motion will help to prevent stiffness from setting in and are an important part of physical rest.

Before bedtime, create a routine to prepare for sleep, dim lights, lavender scents, no TV or phone helps too. A few minutes doing stretching poses and trying to have a consistent bedtime should help too. This should help to improve sleep which is important in the working week.

Mental Rest

Your brain is likely to be working hard in the work week, constantly trying to conquer your never ending to do list, or solve problems, it deserves a rest and needs one in order to function optimally. Allowing your mind to rest is vital.

Schedule blocks of time for specific activities. Multi tasking is exhausting, but scheduling blocks of time for specific tasks like emails, is helpful.

Whilst meditating at work may sound like impossible, meditation is an excellent way to provide mental rest and can be done in short periods of time, as little as 5 to 10 minutes can help. Guided meditations are available, or you can spend a few moments focussing on your thoughts. Notice your thoughts, what is occupying your mind? Don’t analyse or judge your thoughts, just start by acknowledging those thoughts. Similarly a body scan can be practiced outside of work and then done at work in a relatively short period of time.

A walk away from your desk or office at some point in your day, outside if possible can also help, if you can access the power of nature – trees, fields or a river, this is excellent for mental rest.

Emotional Rest

If you are noticing emotional changes through the day, especially after an interaction with a particular person, start to think how you can respond in a way that leaves you emotionally healthy. This isn’t a quick fix, but noticing is a good starting point. If there is a chance to talk and return to a better emotional state, try to do this.

You should also stop comparing yourself to others or trying to be like you think others want you to be. Be who you are. Try to find people who you can “be yourself” around, if this is difficult at work, an awareness of this is a good starting point. If you notice yourself “adapting” to try to fit in or second guess what people want, this is something to reflect on and think how you can be more yourself instead.

Social Rest

We are likely not to have had the luxury of choosing our colleagues and the other people we encounter at work, so in our working day, this is about an awareness of who you feel most connected to and finding opportunities for interaction with them. Professional associations, groups of people with similar interests are a good starting point as are those who may face similar challenges.

Seek opportunities to talk without judgement.

Listening is important too, notice how much time you spend talking and try to shift the focus more to listening, as a key part of communication. Active listening, focussing and seeking to understand creates connection and builds understanding too.

Spiritual Rest

In a busy work situation, retreating to a place of safety that exists in your mind can be comforting. This does, of course need practice and preparation. Dr Daulton Smith writes “sanctuary is not simply a place; it’s a state of being”. Accessing this lace takes practice, but like meditation as emotional rest, similar mindful practices and meditation, even in short spells can bring about spiritual rest.

Sensory Rest

Dr Dalton Smith advises us to “unplug” – even if for a short break at work, seek an opportunity to be away form all devices, phones etc. for a period of time. Ask yourself what brings sensory rest to you and try to add this. If you find music calming, then see if you can find a way of bringing this into your day. Similarly the clothes you wear can have an impact on your sense of touch – some fabrics may calm you. What you wear to work can have an impact so think carefully about what helps you.

Creative Rest

Consider how you could organise your work day so that it fits with you mind and body’s natural rhythm for performance. For most, these are 90 minute or wo hour blocks with a break of 20 minutes. Think about tasks that might be better done in the morning, work with your body clock if you can. Between 1pm and 4pm most of us are less productive and so if you can plan your day to account for this it will help.

Creative tasks are a huge boost too, where you have the opportunity to draw, paint, write or anything else creative, this can be a huge benefit.

My week so far

Aware of my rest deficit last week, this week I have focussed much more on this. Today, I have sought out people who I can talk to and whose company I find uplifting. I feel lucky to work somewhere this is possible, and thinking back, my headteacher colleagues, with whom I am still in contact have always been a great source of support – and social rest.

Today, prior to a challenging meeting, I spent some time quietly walking and focussing on my breathing. It went well, but still presented some challenges. Afterwards I took a full 20 minute break, with a walk outside, and some time focussed on breathing and mental rest.

The week feels better and this deliberate focus on rest, whilst I build up these habits is helping so far.

Now I am home, I am waiting for it to cool down and hope to take the 3 dogs for a short walk or just a swim. The river and these three provide perfect recipe for an evening of mental rest.

How are you doing? How do you focus on rest in the working week?